Coaching with Fenland Counselling
The role of a coach is often misunderstood, so exactly what does a coach do?
In short, a coach aims to help and empower others to make, meet and exceed their personal and professional goals. This can include succeeding in the workplace, becoming happy and fulfilled at home, exploring your potential or achieving life long ambitions.
In a similar way to counsellors helping people overcome mental issues and problems, coaches use techniques of various theories to provide clients with the tools to face difficult situations with confidence and push past emotional and psychological barriers.
Although a coach may offer useful advice and guidance they will never attempt to direct you or tell you what to do. Coaching is about objectivity, structure and empowerment, not instruction or indoctrination.
At the heart of coaching is the idea that clients must be given the power to help themselves. The important principles of this include:
A) Subjectivity: It is important to recognise that we all have different perspectives of the world and no-one perspective is either ‘right’ or ‘wrong’, but some perspectives can be restrictive and stop a person becoming who they want to be.
B) Empowerment: It is within everyone’s capability to adjust the limits of their own perspective. With the help of a coach anyone can learn to open their mind if they wish.
C) Guidance: there is a difference between an instructor and a guide. An instructor shows a person what to do, whereas a guide provides the tools and support a person needs to do something for themselves. A coach must act as a guide and not as an instructor.
What happens during a Coaching session?
Coaching sessions will typically last 50-60 minutes. Sessions can be conducted over the phone, video conferencing such as Skype or Zoom, face to face, over email, and occasionally through instant messaging.
During the session, you will be asked a number of questions, such as what you want to get out of life, what areas you’re unhappy with and where you’d like to see yourself ending up. Although a coach will work with you, it’s often up to you to challenge or reflect upon certain ideas to help you move forward with your life. You will never be forced to make any decisions you don’t feel comfortable with and all sessions will be confidential, allowing you to explore your thoughts and feelings privately.
Coaching is often seen as a partnership between you and your coach, who will gently encourage you to explore how to make positive changes in your life. A coach should also offer support and feedback to help you to stay focused on your goals.
How is coaching different from counselling?
One of the differences between counselling and coaching is that counselling generally investigates the underlying causes of mental health problems whereas coaching focuses more on the future to encourage personal development and self-improvement.
A coach generally approaches things pragmatically and through questions and exercises will try to get a good idea of how you look at the world. This will help to identify the most effective route to your goal. Some people feel intimidated by the idea of change and so need to take things slowly to fulfil their goals. In this situation a coach might divide ultimate goals into smaller bite-sized pieces. In contrast other people may get impatient and lose interest if goals are not reached quickly. In this situation a coach might suggest introducing stronger reminders and incentives to keep them on track.
However you approach life, your coach will be able to tailor your sessions to fit
Subjects coaching can help you with include:
Love life – Do you wish you had the confidence to approach someone you have your eye on? Do you struggle with commitment? Are you struggling to cope with a divorce? Whatever the problem, a coach could help you to understand your love-life and work towards improving it.
Business life – Starting and running a business is tough work. Sometimes we get so absorbed in hard work we neglect ourselves. Coaches can help with confidence, leadership, decision making and work/life balance.
Personal life – Do you feel like you’re not making the most of life? There’s so much to see, do and learn in this world but often a lack of confidence, time and will-power can cause us to stay inside not doing anything.
Performance – Improvement is at the heart of coaching. Whatever your skill, coaching could help improve it. Whether you’re an athlete, an artist, a writer, a performer, or a musician – adopting specialist techniques will help you to push your limitations and exceed expectations.
How many coaching sessions will I need?
You can have as many or as few coaching sessions as you like. Some people hire coach once every few months, some people have a session once a week. Essentially it is entirely up to you to decide.